This is the way of life

I was watching a debate program about the most omnipresent discomfort state of mind in everyone "Stress". Apart from most of the non-sense marketed methodologies people now following to get rid of it (I do not want to mention those as I do not want to harm them as I am totally against those quack methodologies), I saw a special mark in the course of the program towards the end and I really wanted to share that with all of my fellow bloggers and visitors. May be I am sharing this just because of the point I noted is what I call "This is the way of life" and which I follow.

We can just ignore discussing the topic when it doesn't possess any aftereffect. But usually this is not the case in reality. Say, for an instance, if a person is stressed out in his office, he/she brings it back to home or if he/she is stressed out in his home, he/she brings it to office and aftereffects happen, which sometimes (Ahem ahem, most of the times) has its devastating effect. I call it as not the way of life. My ideologies here may differ from most of the spectators here as I usually do not follow what I have paraphrased during the start of this paragraph.

Technically speaking, people are quoted to be in stress when they are question marked (either by themselves (mind voice and yes..!) or by a peer) about their ability to complete a task. Let the task be a personal or a professional one.

Whatever the task be, getting into core of the problem and standing a bit away to view it in a global stand point to get an idea of the solution makes the difference of "being-in-stress" and "out-of-stress".

At the same time I do not say that a common man can be without stress at all but I wanted share my idea to reduce it. 

I also believe that these statements will be a trash until a person walks through it and practice it. I usually write a lot when I am writing a philosophical note but I hope I kept it quite short as the solution which I have/follow is simple and straight forward.

A lesson from my life

Even before you start reading this post you can predict that I am going to write a story here, as its trivial from the title itself. Indeed yes, I gonna tell you something which I learned from my past.

Let me start up the story straight away. It is an incident happened during my U.G.

"We have been taught some stuffs which are in relation with one of my core subject by the lecturer who will teach us regularly. During the evening session for the same subject, it was someone else who stood in front of the writing board of our class to govern us. She introduced us as she was our new staff appointed to that peculiar subject but we already know that she was only an active staff only for that period of time.

"She ordered us to study the thing that was taught to us in the morning and also
she whispered that she would ask us questions after some time. Although I knew the topic very well, I pretended to her like asking some doubts for passing time. Also it was the last hour of the day and we all were waiting to hear last bell to ring.

"She started asking questions one by one. Before she started asking, we requested her not to ask questions as we were not in the mood of answering questions, but, as usual, like other staffs she rejected our requests. All answered to their most extent possible.

"It was my turn, I have to answer the questions. She asked me a question from the topic which she explained me for my doubts. She also was sure that I knew the answers. As unfortunate to her, I have answered nothing. As a zest of youth, I simply wore a smile and kept my mouth shut. This action of mine provoked her anger. She again asked me to answer for it with a rigor tone adding "I know that you know the answer. So, answer me". Again I did the same.

"With all my actions, she detested me. She wanted to lob me out but she didn't.
As I did not drop my smile outta my face, she aroused with anger and shouted at me to stop laughing. I humbly replied "I am not laughing mam, I am just smiling". Meanwhile this conversation, the most awaited bell rang. At the end, we all left the room which includes her.

"On the next day, I came to know that she left the college. I was bit relaxed with some guiltiness. Relaxed, as there was no need to meet her again with shame face; Guilty, as I shouldn't have behaved like that.

I think, its not only my silence even after her spacial lecture especially made her aroused with anger but also my smile at the wrong time made her so. Besides my feelings of relaxation and guilty consciousness, I also learned that sometimes our smile may cause someone to get hurt. So, be aware of your gestures as well as your postures possibly at any situation.

I gave you this experience keeping behind some other similar experiences out of my college days because I want to explain it with some interesting stuffs and to remind you your college days in parallel (with some similar experience).